I am inspired by yet another quote from Paula Coehlo’s Warrior of the Light: A Manual
The metaphor, “plunging into the abyss,” is akin to confronting any of life’s challenges. Good topic for me today since I knowingly entered the social media battlefield of wills while defending my free speech and my character. In other words, I got into a heated discussion on LinkedIn that turned ugly. I soaked in the hate and fell into the abyss.
Author Anne Lamott calls expectations “resentments in the making.” I was expecting to make my case, backed by research, then leave as the victor. I was not prepared to be challenged by a worthy opponent. What! So what happens when confronted by these little resentments in the making? The Warrior of the Light uses “all his strength to escape from his predicament.” Realizing what a small person I was becoming by getting defensive, I withdrew from the battlefield. (Director’s note: shakes fists and cries, “I’ll get you next time!”)
So what’s this got to do with asking for a pay raise? Getting what you want is not unlike going into battle for yourself in order to “fight the Good Fight.” As you already know your employer is a worthy foe. Treat your employer as your business partner (not some random hater on LinkedIN. Sheesh!) and together you can reach a compensation agreement that works for both of you. Often times the employer, hiring manager, human resource representative, dictates how much you will earn or how much your salary increase will be. I am suggesting you become a Warrior of the Light and speak up for yourself if the compensation package is not to your liking. You may find yourself tormented and frightened but know this is temporary and for Good purpose, which is your personal, professional, and spiritual growth! There is no more noble a cause.
“The Warrior of the Light unwittingly takes a false step and plunges into the abyss.
Ghosts frighten him and solitude torments him. His aim had been to fight the Good Fight, and he never imagined that this would happen to him, but it did. Shrouded in darkness, he makes contact with his master.
“Master, I have fallen into the abyss, “he says. “The waters are deep and dark.”
“Remember one thing,” replies the master. “You do not drown simply by plunging into water, you only drown if you stay beneath the surface.”
And the Warrior uses all his strength to escape from his predicament.
~Paula Coelho “Warrior of the Light: A Manual” p. 64
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